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healthfulness, etc.
So, I have never, ever done a friends cut before. Actually, it's quite obvious from the huge tangled mess that is my LJ friends edit page (oh god, the dead comms and purged or duplicate LJs). This cut was motivated by a couple of things.
The first is that I suppose Dreamwidth's subscribe/give access to distinction has led me to feel differently about those people who have friended me silently and who I've friended back out of some blanket "if your journal has content, I'll mutually friend you" policy. Very few of these people have I ever interacted with. I am certain they're very nice people, but as far as mutual access goes, it's not strictly necessary, is it? I'm not going to be locking much of anything that (I assume) interests them about my journal anytime soon.
I am also cutting some people who aren't strangers. Some of these are people I've known in person, some are people I've interacted with a great deal online at one time. Either we've drifted miles apart from each other without keeping any sort of a dialogue open, in which case I must say that I did enjoy our friendship, and I look forward to the reunion, if we ever have one, but that obviously we aren't cut out for day-to-day correspondence, and that's okay. You know where to find me if you need to. Or else all of our interaction revolved around one specific subject, to which I am unlikely to further contribute. Basically, I'm concerned that politeness and the prolific use of filtering is keeping me on your flist far beyond the expiration date of your interest in me. If you feel your interest in my journal goes beyond whatever main interest we once shared, then let me know, and I'll happily refriend. But if not, I'm happy with that, too.
Essentially, I've been feeling far too self-conscious about this journal for far too long. I've been feeling stuck, like walking against a current. I am not sure what led to it, but it's been hindering my online and creative life in lots of ways. Moving to Dreamwidth helped. I do believe that this, also, will help.
The first is that I suppose Dreamwidth's subscribe/give access to distinction has led me to feel differently about those people who have friended me silently and who I've friended back out of some blanket "if your journal has content, I'll mutually friend you" policy. Very few of these people have I ever interacted with. I am certain they're very nice people, but as far as mutual access goes, it's not strictly necessary, is it? I'm not going to be locking much of anything that (I assume) interests them about my journal anytime soon.
I am also cutting some people who aren't strangers. Some of these are people I've known in person, some are people I've interacted with a great deal online at one time. Either we've drifted miles apart from each other without keeping any sort of a dialogue open, in which case I must say that I did enjoy our friendship, and I look forward to the reunion, if we ever have one, but that obviously we aren't cut out for day-to-day correspondence, and that's okay. You know where to find me if you need to. Or else all of our interaction revolved around one specific subject, to which I am unlikely to further contribute. Basically, I'm concerned that politeness and the prolific use of filtering is keeping me on your flist far beyond the expiration date of your interest in me. If you feel your interest in my journal goes beyond whatever main interest we once shared, then let me know, and I'll happily refriend. But if not, I'm happy with that, too.
Essentially, I've been feeling far too self-conscious about this journal for far too long. I've been feeling stuck, like walking against a current. I am not sure what led to it, but it's been hindering my online and creative life in lots of ways. Moving to Dreamwidth helped. I do believe that this, also, will help.
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